Even though it's been about six weeks since we had to have Mini Me and The Banshee moved from our care to another home, bio mom has been keeping The Queen updated via text. The bio parents started getting Mini Me and The Banshee for weekend visits a couple of weeks ago after finally getting an apartment. Well, The Queen just texted me that the bio parents will get Mini Me and The Banshee back full time this afternoon after 2:00 PM.
Truly, I have mixed emotions about their return. On the one hand, I am very pleased that the parents were able to work their services plan and get their kids back. From everything I ever saw of them together, they genuinely love their kids and the kids are fiercely love them in return. I am a little disappointed that we will not get to see the final reunion take place, but such is life.
On the other hand, I have reservations about the abilities of the bio parents to make wise decisions going forward. I doubt that this will be their last brush with the system, and I am especially concerned that cycle will be repeated in Mini Me and The Banshee's lives as they grow up and learn by example.
I hope that I am wrong, but I suspect that I am not. I wish them the best, and I pray that they will all be alright.
I think you have expressed the sentiments of those who have fostered everywhere. Most people foster for the good of the children themselves, and most of us understand that the permanent loss of a biological parent can be a very negative thing......unless it's truly necessary. Of course, that can be a hard thing to truly assess, for you and I, and for social workers as well. Tonight I will also pray that the family of whom you spoke finds the ability to grow and progress in these difficult times in order to hold their children above themselves in this life. Perhaps what you and your wife showed them, in terms of love and direction, will be just enough to get them through.
ReplyDeleteJane, your comment is very well put, and I hope you are right.
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